Sunday, April 26, 2009
How to be a "good" mom/parent?
OK I have this random thought that I keep struggling with. I want Megan to trust me enough to come to me for help with her problems but I want her to be independent enough to be able to deal with her problems on her own, this is mostly a future concern but one that I feel definitely starts when they are young. How do you find that balance?
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I know what you mean. This might help, but maybe not. I don't know when we started this but Clint was saying how Kaeson acted to much like a baby and needed to be a MAN! I just rolled my eyes, but if Kaeson gets hurt and comes crying to me. I say kiss it better. If he is still crying then I give him loves. But now it has gone to, when he gets hurts he will just kiss it better, unless of course he is really hurt. I don't know if that helps but I can't think of anything else right now.
Thinking of myself, I never thought I could share everything with my Mom for a couple of reasons: Fear of judgment and fear of dissapointing her. I think with our parents those two things will always come into play. We don't want to let them down.
So if we as parents can try to be less judgmental and show love no matter what our children do that will help. Which is probably the two hardest things do to! Especially with teenagers! Now is a good time to practice. I Keep praying that these things will become a part of my character.
You are doing a great job!
Love You, MOM
Hey Rachel! Thanks for your message and for all your thoughts and prayers for our twins. It's going to be a roller coaster ride for awhile, I am sure you know how that is. Your family pictures are just beautiful!
I have often asked myself this same question! It sounds like your mom answered if prefectly. I can't add much to that! Hope all is well with your cute family. Again thank you for your love and prayers!
I have found that my children base whether or not to tell me current events on my responses of past events. Those moments where I reacted before I thought things through truly came back to haunt me later. Logan, for instance, will not tell me when he hurts himself. The other day, he went to the ER by himself, because he knows that this scares me and I react out of fear. Yet, he tells me personal things about his life that most teenage boys would never reveal to their mothers because I have always been careful not to overreact or judge when we have those types of discussions. Your experiences in life will teach you how to be a good mother, as you reflect on how you were treated and what helped you. You had the best of women as a mother and you will amplify that when you couple it with your experiences. Megan is a very blessed little girl. Thanks for letting me be part of your life experiences. Love you.
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